Monogamy vs Poly

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It has been assumed that I am against monogamy because I am and have been in poly relationships. On the contrary I would have taken monogamy over poly each and every time. I still believe in monogamy. Hell in the last two years I took a shot at it.

Being poly is not easy, it is not a I get to fuck everyone thing (especially since I am super fucking picky.) It has become a way to provide for some of the things I need and for those I do get involved with to have help and not be overwhelmed.

Poly is loving and caring about them even when they are in their feelings about something I said, they can't understand or rationalize through their filters my actions and the inability to listen instead of interpret.

I loved being monogamous. I had what i wanted and made me happy. I was married with someone that wanted to be together and make things work without out selfish or sabotaging behaviors. And we chose to have a great relationship and marriage. It was like being at the pinnacle through thick and thin. So the bar has been set very high for monogamy. Hell, any deep meaningful relation with me.

Through poly I can be helpful, supportive and lead in proper direction. Each one holds different traits, skills and more that I like and enjoy. They are not treated or governed the same way because there is nothing the same about them. So each thing is tailor made each and every moment for them individually.

My poly is NOT your poly though. I am going to stick with my kind of poly. Where I have who I am seeing and we see each other. And since they date others and do their thing that is fine. I won't have a desire to be friends with whoever they are dating. I just leave that to them and disassociate that relationship from me. I focus on who I am with well being instead. This doesn't work for females that want poly centered around them or everyone equally together. And that is fine for them. I know what I like, want and I will stick to it.

There are pros and cons to everything if you want. And people will say whatever they want about being poly and their aversion to monogamy, marriage and the like because of their experiences and socializations. Those are their choices.

As for me I choose what is practical and available according to my life.