Mission Impossible: Search for Unicorn and the Holy Grail

You are looking at the title and going. Umm, What The Fuck!

Well, this is about what I have wanted in a relationship and the results of a bit of research I did with females recently.

I asked them the process they had for dating someone. This entailed from deciding that they are interested in the person to the point where they decide to actually be with them or not be with them.

It seemed that most want to have someone with similar common interests and can talk to when they feel like it. And they have the fear of being vulnerable in common. From the super scared level to the deathly scared level. And it is in Fulllll Effect! So there is and will be the emotional disconnect and avoidance of bringing feeling to the table forever or as long as possible.

ok so a few of the results from my research poll are:

For this one.

She tries to date someone that she has things in common since she gets bored easily. They have to be open and understanding to her lifestyle and that you will have to compete with others over her. Understand that certain things will not change. Because people think that their feelings should dictate her changing her lifestyle. Didn't want or need to combine feelings, fucking and playing with any one person. Very strong on no emotional attachment.

The next one.

Here is an establish ritual and gauntlet that one must pass through.

Beginning with hello texts that have to be upheld to show interest. Once this is maintained satisfactory, then it goes to 20 questions. Aka the interrogation time. Where you have to pass the invisible and unknown test that you wouldnt' know how to answer if they did. At these times the person she is talking to and interviewing must have all attention directed to her. And the 20 questions are situation questions. Not just informational ones. If she likes these answers on the text date then they can have a phone conversation. If the answers are semi satisfactory then it is more text dates for you. At the phone conversation stage you actually attempt to get to know you. Welcome, you have made it past the outer mote and first minefield. But wait...there's more. You will then need to continue keeping up the happiness and communication satisfactorily for at least 2 to 3 months. That's right. You will only interact through electronics. If you are still in contention at this point a meet up is arranged and if you dont' pass this then you will be only a friend to talk to.

Next up.

The play it by ear situation. Meet up and talk to them about any and every type of situation to see where their head is at. They go out to eat or to the bar then to see what they are like going places and having fun. After she gets comfortable they can do at home dates and someone cooks and things. Things stop at this point if they have turned her off with sex related talk, showed that they are evil or cheap, they have anger issues or they are crazy. If she is no longer interested she backs away slowly and makes excuses for not seeing them anymore. If she is interested she asks them if they are interested in making things official.

And we will end with.

Here time is the only thing that matters. The longer you date then the more comfortable she comes. Go slow and get to know her. Make sure you keep the interest to a minimum. Just enough so that she knows you heard what she said and no more. If you keep the interest then you can move to the next stage of dating. This stage works on the base level. Now lets see if the next phase of it's ok to expect a little more and we can talk about it if that is not happening. And then we might be able to see if dating will go longer phase.

So there you have a few of the views provided by different females from different backgrounds, education and socioeconomic status.

Now...drumroll

I will give you my position and points in this fucked up dating thing.

My dating style and concept has always been with purpose, clear and concise. I wasn't dating to see how long I could drag things out. Or just to be doing something. Or because I had no feelings to give nor wanted any given.

It is thought that I search for someone that is my wife and to replace my wife. Absolutely NO ONE will ever be woman enough to fit those shoes. And pretending that is just fucking stupid and impossible.

Have a wanted a strong, loving and dynamic relationship like I had in my marriage? BINGO! Exactly I do. But that would mean the miracle of a woman showing up that had enough self and ability to be with me. That means, an independence, desire, want and perserverence to achieve something that is more than that bullshit they had previously.

So, am I searching? HELL NO! If the astronomical possibility of another miracle of a dynamic and unforgettable relationship happens then it will show itself fully and completely. Meanwhile we are going to do what we do. It is what it is. Ride until the end of the earth as the Dark Rider man shit.

I tell who I am interested what I want and my interest up front. That won't change. It weeds out the undesirables real quick. Then if there is no positive response after a while then I am down to just no longer caring. We hang out if we can have a good time still and I don't even remember them often. And here is where I will stay until I get bored, annoyed and toss the broken toy away.

If by some way they keep my interest and I still want to be around them then I will hang out and we do our thing when we can. Otherwise not much is given or done, except in according to the standard and level of the dating thing between us. Am I going to be loving? Nope! Will I care? yeah, a little bit.

Yeah, yeah I hear you with the what if mystery question. What if someone actually was right for me, wanted a permanent relation and was actually excitede about ite? I would make sure they were real first and foremost. Check to see if my Build a Bitch service was already working. And then check for everyone trying to play a joke on me.

Actually if someone actually could fit the position and be theirself and provide a one of a kind experience that works, is wanted and a happyi thing. Then I would actually open up and let them in and actually have and show feelings again. And love would be available instead of in locdown with a life sentence.

I require something unique that fits with me and the female has decided as a woman that she wants something of meaning with me.

So that is it in a brief nutshell. I am not going to dissect the research girl's responses. I am just going to let them stay as they said it.

Maybe we will have a discussion about dating one day. Until then...

Dark shadow of me riding into the sunset with "Unforgiven" playing in the bacground.

Be Well!