There and Back Again

Had a discussion on dating, D/s and poly vs monogamy tonight. It was cool. I also know how difficult I am in these areas.

Poly is a wonderful thing when everyone is comfortable, getting what they need and happy. It is something that females like a lot more these days because it gives them more of a sense of control on needs. They don't have to rely on one person at all. And I understand and get that from me doing poly. Because they provide pieces of the whole for me in whatever way they can.

And there is where there was some discussion. Because she said that she sees poly as getting her core needs met with each person she is in a relationship with. And I am not against that at all. If that works and happens for you then great. For me it is not that way. I get affection from one, passion from another, and something to have fun with from another. My core needs and values really are not being met or addressed.

Which brought up the case of when I wanted one woman to be and handle it all. Be my submissive, wife, lover and partner. I had to come to the truth and realization of that it is not possible. I do think it can happen if someone actually wanted and made the efforts for that. But come on now we are in the modern age of situationships and all that. lol I concluded that no one could handle what I wanted and needed. I had that when I was married and no one will ever be woman enough to be at that level with me. So I took that feeling and murdered it and buried it in a tomb beneath hell and hades with any feelings an emotions.

So I was asked if there was any feeling or emotion since I have dismantled everything. There is but it is according to who the interaction in and their level, strength, status and what they are giving. Yes, we are on the sliding scale system. If you don't have show love and emotion. Then I got your message...me either. lol

I see D/s and dating separate basically. The dating can become part of the D/s but for me it is normally D/s first then an aspect of dating. Unless we have no D/s, then we are just dating if we are around each other at all.

For some D/s has no aspect of dating at all. The two are very separate. A boundary between romance, love and D/s in that case. Personally I think they can all coincide if you want them to and have the right people for it.

So I say be happy with whatever you are seeking.

As for me it is what it is. I will go with what fits until it doesn't and I have to acquit. lol