Yeah, You and Your Custom Made Love and Relationships

chocolatezeus
May 16, 2016
3 min read

After really witnessing, experiencing and being in the brunt of the bullshit. I am going to speak on it. Everyone wants things their way and to be accepted. Those are givens. But in this world you have to compromise if you decide to be connected to others. Hell, at least start with being real and saying how you are, what you want and don't want up front. So no one has to waste time on your ass.

The latest in this area has been someone that once was a friend, a lover, a fuck buddy and now just *crickets*. This individual I thought was in love with me as she said. Thought she could be trusted. Gave her to opportunity to be herself, be open, honest and real with me. Umm, yeah that all ended in a farce.

What they chose to do is become really jealous, petty and just crazy. When I talked to them about it and gave them the opportunity to just say what you feel and everything. I got bits and pieces. I had to verbally torture them to get them to reveal their jealousy. Even when the person they were jealous of and I tried to get them to open up and be comforted. There was that stubborn no go attitude. Add to that the blatant disrespect for me, my time and everything that happened in person a number of times.

My solution: I see it for what it is. Someone thinking that I will always be there no matter what shit they pull and all the blatant disregard. So I stepped back. Then I just vacated the premises. If there is contact then I speak and that is it. There is nothing there for me but an emptiness and reminders of their actions that make me shake my head.

Next up...

Relationships that use the word love. They are all subject to reading the fine print on the rules and the warning labels. So I listen and then apply my level of love, interest, appeal and all in return. If you are not giving me your all then you won't get anywhere near mine at all. And i hear the comments about poly in your head. They get what they require. But since i am not the only one they are with then all of me will not be attainable. They have others for that so they are good.

So, I give them the level they ask for through their actions, thoughts, feelings and words. Nothing more. Hey, I am just giving them what they asked for.

In conclusion...

I hear you talking about I have my own rules for relationships and love. Umm, yeah I do. And since I am the focal point they are the ones that matter. I never said that I didn't have them. I just spoke on other's aspects.

When and if they say I love you I take it into context of who they are, what category they are in and position they keep.

Any attention, affection or feelings are turned off when not directly involved with someone.

In this age of females wanting and doing "situationships". I am making sure that they can stay in their comfort zone. Make sure everything is disconnected and disposable. So they can happily say "we are good to go."

I believe fully in love, relationships and more. But as they say Semper Fi.

Cue my exit music